Saturday 9 January 2016

Why I Still Live at Home


Yes, I’m in my mid twenties now and I’m closer to 30 than to 20, so why do I still live at home with my parents. I’ve actually had a lot of people ask me that, especially since I started working full time.

When I was in uni, nobody was interested in this question, because it was obvious: I don’t earn enough money with my students jobs and I didn’t want my parents help. I always said that if there is a possibility to move out, I will. I actually always wanted to move out and get away from my village, down to the city. I never wanted to live in a shared flat. First of all, living with strangers, no thank you! And even if I’d know the people, I love my freedom and I have have that at home with my parents. In a shared flat you have to compromise a lot and I’m just not the type for that. Since I didn’t have a serious boyfriend during Uni and especially after I finished my degree, moving out wasn’t an option. Having two people paying a rent makes it much easier, but I had no one to move into with. I love my friends, but I couldn’t live with them.

When I started my job I had to ask myself one question: Moving out or buying a car. Rents are really expensive around here, so I wasn’t looking for something and the car just made so much more sense. I don’t have to ask mum or dad for their car anymore and to get to school, it’s just easier to have a car. My school is up on a mountain and by public transport it woud take my 50 minutes, sometimes even more. By car I have 10 – 15 minutes. Buying the car meant that I don’t have any money for rent. I’m now paying my parents a small monthly „rent“ and also an amount for the car each month, because I didn’t have enough money for it, at the beginning.

Living at home has a lot of advantages. First of all, I have people I love around me and they are always there for me. Of course they can get annoying from time to time, but I have my own space and my freedom. I spend my time in my room and our house is big enough for us to have enough space. My brother still lives at home as well and he’s been earning money since he started his apprenticeship.  At dinner and lunch I have people sitting at the table as well and it gives us a great chance to exchange things and talk about our days. It is definitely also nice to have someone cook you dinner, when you get home and also someone doing your washing. Don’t get me wrong, I want to be independent and that’s why I cook as well and do as much housework as possible.
As I said, I’m NEVER alone and I’m really grateful for that.

For everyone the situation is different and I think as long as you are happy everything is fine. I’m happy with my situation and I think that’s the most important thing. 

6 comments:

  1. I think these days its pretty normal to be living with your parents well into your twenties, simply because the price of everything has gone up, and no one is earning enough. I moved out of my parents last year ( I live now with my friend and my sister and can certainly vouch for the fact that living with friends can be a little trying at times! ) and even sharing with other people the money is pretty tight, so there's no way I could have done it on my own. And if I'd had the choice you did between a car or moving out I would have chosen the car too - I love being able to just go places without relying on public transport all the time! It's so much more freeing.

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    1. Hi Laura,
      thanks so much for the comment :) Yeah, having a car is great, I can just go anywhere, anytime. xx

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  2. I completely understand your reasoning on this one. I am still at home and I'm 31. I am hoping to be out by January next year, I have been living with parents to save money for my own place, the rents in my home town for somewhere anywhere near where I would like to live are around 3/4 of my monthly wage without adding bills and food so it's tough to live on your own. Just like you I think the idea of moving out to share with strangers is not for me, as I share a house now so why would I want to move out and pay double to live with people I had to compromise so much to live with?!
    x

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    1. Hi!
      It really is the best way to save money. And I totally agree with you, why spend double the money and live with strangers?! Thanks for your comment x

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  3. Where I live, people (especially women) move out when they are getting married. I am 34 and moved out at the beginning of this year. I live on my own in an apartment that I inherited. Still coming home at weekends to wash my laundry because I don't have a washing machine yet. I still help my father with the bills, and he helps me with the furniture. There are many families here with three generations under the same roof. Many families built their houses with one level for them and one for each for the children, so floor number one is for the parents, and floor number two or three for each of the kids to live when they grow up and get married. There is nothing wrong with someone being an adult and staying in his/hers parents'home. xxx

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    1. Hi lovely!
      That is very interesting. Thanks for your comment xxx

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